Food for thought.October 30, 2011
Belle and I had a long conversation last night. She is reading a book on SM for a review and it is scaring her a bit. The infamous slippery slope is what concerns her. She explained that while reading, she has attempted to see where she fits in and thus far she has been unsuccessful. On the other hand she can totally see me fitting in rather well in the SM lifestyle. She fears that when we reach the point that she can not pass, I will be longing for something 3 miles beyond that wall.
This took some thinking…a dangerous pastime, I know. On one hand, she is right. I’m sure that I will crave acts far beyond her desires. We have run into that kind of thing already. Not everyone has the same kinks. Belle is…or at least once was…as vanilla as they come. In practice I was too. The difference was, kinky things intrigue me. Belle seems to be indifferent, leaning towards the “no thanks” side of the fence. A lot of the things I ask her to do, she does to humor me. Every once in a while she gets into it. Often she does not. The times she does not are unfullfilling to me and leave me feeling a bit embarassed.
I explained to her last night that the core of my fantasies do not revolve around specific acts. They are centered on a strong, confident woman. A woman that lusts after me, and knows what she wants. She doesn’t need whips or chains, she has a look that I dare not defy…nor would I want to. Nobody needs to be hanging upside down with a hook in their ass. Nobody needs to wear a leather hood with electrified clamps on their nipples. All these things that frighten Belle are unnecessary.
The attitude is the most important part. It is the only toy you need. It is the sexiest thing I can imagine and it is free. You just need to learn how to use it.
So read your book Belle. Pick up a cool idea or two and dissregard anything you don’t care for. You are the boss afterall.